My Bad

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I Screwed Up

If I have ever made you feel strength was only for the masculine, I want to sincerely apologize.

When I started Buff Butch, my intention was to remove barriers restricting those in the masculine of center community from gaining access to fitness. I didn’t realize I was unintentionally doing the same thing to others in the broader queer community.

A couple weeks ago, I was in Philadelphia to present my workshop entitled “Empowering Masculinity Through Strength Training” at the Philly Trans Health Conference. Do you know what was the first thing I did in my workshop?

I called myself out.


When I started this project, my sole focus was on MoC folks.My reasoning was they were the ones who had most often approached me for training advice. Shortly after I launched the early version of Buff Butch, I received questions from queer folks whose identities were outside of masculine of center, but were nonetheless interested in my style of training.

At first, I didn’t really think much about it. Of course, everyone was welcome to train! Sometimes I can be a little slow on the uptake and it wasn’t until the beginning of this year I finally noticed what I had done wrong.

I realized the language I was using was restrictive. I was gatekeeping.

I was doing the same thing the fitness industry had been doing. I created an emphasis on masculinity and masculine folks to the point I was turning off those who did not identify with it. The title of my workshop suggested it was intended only for those who were masculine. By doing so, I was unintentionally saying the knowledge I was sharing was reserved only for a certain populations.

This was NEVER my intention.

Regardless of how you identify, everyone should be given the knowledge to become stronger and to be in control of their own physical narrative. This is why I decided to shift the focus of Buff Butch.

To reflect this, I have changed the Buff Butch motto to “Building Stronger Queer Bodies” so our primary objective is clear; to work towards removing barriers for ALL members of the queer community. We are in the works right now of revamping our website and creating more diverse content to represent the entire queer community.

If you feel your voice hasn’t been heard or represented in fitness, now’s the time to make it heard! I want to highlight how awesome YOU are so drop me a line and let’s chat!


Your Brother in Arms, Pat

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